This post is to share what I've learned in life about being passive and how it can help you get what you need and want out of a situations. Tired of getting taken for granted? Ladies...are you tired of sleeping with men who force themselves on you when you really didn't wanna do it but was just afraid to SPEAK UP?! Tired of holding back your true feelings because you're afraid to SPEAK UP? Men, tired of given in to the pressure of what you really don't wanna do because you won't SPEAK UP?
I made up a quote that says "Being passive gets you passed up". And it's so true. I've missed out on sooo many things because I didn't speak up. I didn't speak up because I could see that the people didn't really wanna do whatever it was that I needed. But that's called being passive. If you want something or need something done, you've got to speak up...whether the people want to do it or not. The Bible says you have not because you ask not.
If you wanna make it in any kind of business, you'll get run over if you don't speak your mind. You've got to boldly ask for what you want. You've got to speak up and say "I don't like this" or "I don't like that". You've got to speak up and say "I will not tolerate you treating or talking to me like this"...whatever it is that needs to be said. See, you gotta know your worth, because some people will treat you like they know you need them. They'll treat you any kind of way because they feel they are all you've got. Sometimes you gotta let'em know.lol If you've been passive all your life, this won't be easy...but you've got to do/say something different to get different results. This isn't about being mean, it's about being true to yourself. I've seen cases where people let outside forces run their ship and weren't happy about it but never said anything. That's what happens when you're passive. Controlling people can smell passive people a mile away and they'll leech on to you and control your life. Next thing you know, you'll be asking yourself "How did I become a passenger in my own life?" Because you won't speak up! I've been let down so many times for not saying what I really wanted to say. I've taken crap from people that I wouldn't take now. Since I knew people didn't really want to do it, I was grateful for the 'little' that they did do for me. NO!lol That mentality will get your butt passed up.
So, from this point on, heel shaking and all, make up your mind that you will say what you mean, and mean what you say, just don't say it mean. You deserve to be respected and if they disrespect you, then find somebody else to do the job. But you gotta respect YOU first because sometimes people treat you how they see you treat yourself and feel they're doing 'little ole' you a favor. Close mouths don't get fed. And remember, what you fail to ask for will be something you fail to get.