Last blog I talked about opening up the casket and facing the issues we buried but are still alive. Are you ready to be healed? Aren't you tired of peeling off the scabs of your wounds by reliving the hurtful and painful situation in your mind. The other day, I took some time to just cry and release some stuff in God's presence. I think that would be a great start for you too. I feel so much better after I pray and worship. You'd think I'd do it more often...just being real. My burden was released and I feel good...in my James Brown voice!lol
Letting Go is a lifetime process because there will always be someone to forgive and something you need to let go of, and we can't afford to carry dead weight. So do me a favor and just get in God's presence and release whatever is weighing you down. Put on a worship song or something that relates to what you're going through. If you're walking in unforgiveness, the Bible says that you can't experience God's forgiveness and until you forgive, you'll be tormented in your spirit and mind. That may be what you're experiencing right now. Torment of the mind is when you're constantly thinking about what happened, you can't sleep, you're depressed, and you just have a heaviness on you that you just can't shake. Give it to God today. It's okay to cry. Crying is a release. God made tear ducts for a reason.
Now, back to the subject at hand. An intimate relationship is the ideal setting for healing repressed feelings. You learn a lot about yourself in a relationship or friendship. When you have the right people around you, you're able to be vulnerable with them and grow at the same time without worrying about them looking at you any different. When you find someone you feel safe with and loved by, all your repressed feelings begin to surface in an attempt to be healed. Through honest and loving personal relationships, you can not only learn to master the everyday tension which arises between you and another person, but you can use the relationship as an opportunity to heal old hurts, which will allow you to become a more powerfully loving and lovable person.
Healing your feelings is an ongoing process. Whenever you get to a new level of love and closeness in your relationships, a new level of deeply repressed feelings will surface in order to be healed. When you are living alone in your own separate world, it is very easy to continue repressing your feelings. This is why some people avoid relationships. It would take them too much effort and energy to continue repressing their feelings around another person. These people can only stand relationships for a certain amount of time and then they leave either physically or emotionally, by shutting down their feelings altogether. You know you are resisting dealing with some repressed feelings when you leave your partner and feel relief.
This is why so many people cry for space in relationships. They walk around with all these repressed emotions, are pretty successful at holding them down until they see the person they're dealing with, or the person they come home to. As soon as they start to open up, all of the unexpressed feelings of the day begin to surface. Rather than deal with them, it is simpler to just stay shut down.
So start being honest with yourself and your feelings. Telling the complete truth means admitting doubt when you'd rather pretend certainty, talking about your feelings when you'd rather pout, asking for what you want when you'd rather pretend everything's fine, admitting you made a mistake when you'd rather blame someone else, and sharing your hurt and sadness when you'd rather stop caring. Let Go and let God. We're in this thing together.